Why?Frustration is counseling the victim of chronic beatings from their spouse, only to have them return to the beater time and again. Why? What benefit can come from suffering?
There are many reasons for cutting endless slack with miscreants. One tributary of shame and guilt lay in our drive to find solutions and closure in conflicts. We want to “get along” with the other playmates on the playground, we want to be liked (and/or loved), and, whether you are a believer or not, we are Christians by programming and we are automatically good if we turn the other cheek and be “good little Christians”. So you get a little dose of “instant karma” and be righteous little westerners.
As a psychotherapist I have had the conundrum of self-mutilation to deal with on many occasions. The visible pain is in the cuts on a 13 year old girls arm. If I had a dollar for every child brought in for counseling “cutting” I would be filthy with funds. This purging through self-inflicted injury is as old as the flagellants who spent the dark ages, shredding their backs through self-inflicted whipping. Through pain the price of admission to inner peace is paid. That old enemy, shame, stands like an axman by the road, waiting to decapitate non-hackers. And, in the heart of many progressives, the fear of “being bad” in the eyes of the world is unbearable. Self guilt, and the eternal self-damnation of progressives acts as the buffer against doing the dirty work of taking a stand and possibly pissing off another “Unicorn Jockey”. So we wait to see what the Mainstream says to form an opinion, and the Mainstream always takes the hit. The price is paid, “OH! Such pain! (for a minute) now I can get back to my Latte.”